Why am i emotionless

It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here Ask our community of thousands of members your health questions, and learn from others experiences. Join the conversation! Health Board's Privacy Policy. There was a problem adding your email Try again. All rights reserved. Do not copy or redistribute in any form! Subscribe To Mental Health. A Bit about me; As far as I can remember my mind has not had a nights rest, i think from the moment I wake up to the moment I fall asleep.

I have done personality tests and they have always returned INTJ. I consider myself a fairly popular person who is good at most things I do. My problems; My mind never stops thinking! It always thinks about things, fully analyzes any situations im going to encounter or may never even encounter.

I have to keep my mind busy otherwise I think about completely random stuff like what would win in a fight a penguin or a flamingo or work out a pointlesly long problem that has no relevance to me or what I do just for funzies. I have never 'Felt' an emotion as far as I can remember. I 'know' what I should be feeling and am completely aware of how others are feeling and can emphasise with them but I never use my emotions to do so.

As an example I can look at a new born baby and feel nothing, I can look at a puppy and say its cute without feeling its cute, I could watch that same puppy get runover without feeling sad. I know when I should be angry however cannot bring myself to attack instead just let it flyover my head. I know when i should be happy but instead I just fake a laugh or smile. I know I love my mum and family I just cant feel it. I hate to admit when I cannot do something and this was hard for me to do but I am at the last stop on the bus and if i cant get off now im going off the cliff with the bus.

I have just read a number of your posts and the amount of sincere advice you have given points to a different side that either you do not recognize or simply ignore. Go back and read what you wrote on the other posts and you will see what I mean. My brain is programmed to think on the side of logic and not based off of feelings and it has taken some time to listen to both my brain and my heart but it is possible you just need to spend more time in the moment.

Thats cause I think i can help them and I try to help as many people as I think it might help me get my emotions back, but no single story has made me use my emotion to write a response its all thought. I think alot and dont know how to listen to my emotions. First of all, this is my first post and i only created an account because of the similarities between your circumstances and mine.

First, i think there is two parts in this. You are more rational than emotive, but not emotionless the fact that you ask for help is proof enough What worked for me is understanding that not everything is fairy tales, thus emotions are different and unique to each person.

The way i see it, rationalizing over the death of a puppy to avoid being sad and become able to continue your life is not inconvenirnt. Moreover, the birth of a human being is interesting but may not involve emotive thinking for everyone.

why am i emotionless

Like said we are all unique. But the fact that you feel concerned about this shows you DO have emotions.M odern life is full of emotional challenges. However, what we learn in our society is not how to work with our emotions, but how to block and avoid them.

why am i emotionless

We do it quite well: Between alcohol use, prescription drug use and screen time, there are a multitude of ways to avoid our feelings. When we do acknowledge them, we swat them away with mantras learned since childhood.

Thwarting emotions is not good for mental or physical health. Emotions have energy that pushes up for expression, and to tamp them down, our minds and bodies use creative tactics—including muscular constriction and holding our breath. Symptoms like anxiety and depressionwhich are on the rise in the U. When the mind thwarts the flow of emotions because they are too overwhelming or too conflicting, it puts stress on the mind and the body, creating psychological distress and symptoms.

Emotional stress, like that from blocked emotions, has not only been linked to mental ills, but also to physical problems like heart disease, intestinal problems, headaches, insomnia and autoimmune disorders. Most people are ruled by their emotions without any awareness that this is happening.

But once you realize the power of emotions, simply acknowledging your own can help greatly. Consider Frank, a patient of mine who was greatly bothered that he could not afford the kind of car he really wanted. He also had physical symptoms, and although Frank had some inkling that his stomach troubles had to do with stress, he was unaware that emotions in particular were causing his intense stomach pains.

Current neuroscience suggests that the more emotions and conflicts a person experiences, the more anxiety they feel. It responds to emotions triggered in the mid-brain by sending signals to the heart, lungs and intestines. These signals ready the body to take appropriate and immediate action in the service of survival. The body is ready to react to perceived danger before the person is aware that an emotion has been triggered.

With Frank, for example, his eyes saw the car, and all of a sudden he felt sadness, humiliation and anger. His stomach went into an instant state of upset.

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The role that emotions play in creating both physical suffering and healing is becoming a more popular focus in psychotherapy. Yet the growing field is still not part of mainstream standards of care.Have you been called cold and unfeeling? Some people get that impression, but you're not.

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You care deeply, but you just like hiding your emotions. Being emotionally unavailable doesn't make you less of a person, you still love and want to be loved, you're just afraid of letting someone in, it only gives them more power over you.

You are your own hero. Here are some signs that you are emotionally unavailable:. You like the idea of relationships, in theory. You want to be wanted and loved but the thought of staying with one person for the rest of your life scares the crap out of you.

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When things start getting too serious you get out of there as fast as you can. You're not comfortable sharing your life and feelings with another person. Relationships can be messy and feelings can get hurt. It's easier to not commit to anyone and focus on yourself. You like your own company and you never ask more of yourself than you're willing to give. You don't pester yourself with questions. It's easier and more comfortable to be alone.

You manage your image so that people get what you think is the 'correct' version of you. You hide certain aspects or interests so that you fit in, or to put people off so they won't try to relate to you. Anyone who sees through that mask feels like a threat, especially if that person is trying to pursue a relationship with you. Relationships make you feel vulnerable. Not only in romantic situations, in friendships as well.

Things could be going great for a while, like a friendship honeymoon period, but as soon as some kind of difficulty presents itself, you leave. It's easier to avoid them than to talk out your feelings. This means that you don't often have very many close friends. The ones you do have are so used to your closed off nature that they tease you about it.

If someone breaks down in front of you, you honestly have no clue how to deal with the situation. You half-heartedly pat their back and say 'there, there' and look around desperately for someone to rescue you. It makes you feel inbelievably uncomfortable. You can't understand why someone would be so not composed or together. Don't they know all the other crap that's going on in the world?

Not only are you a terrible flirt, if someone is flirting with you it can take you a while to notice. It unsettles you, why are they interested? You find it difficult to flirt because you don't really think you're that much of a catch. Plus, you have no time for relationships, one night stands you can do, but small talk and flirting?

No thanks.Is this just my personality?

why am i emotionless

A chemical imbalance? Is something wrong with me? To help yourself, have hope and pray about your life. God can help you. Tell God about it. God is love. Know that God can help you live a better life.

You can have a personal relationship with God by saying the prayer below. God is all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever.

Why am I so emotionless?

The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. We follow God by loving and obeying Him and loving others for Him. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God.

Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian.

why am i emotionless

Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God.The questions below are designed to measure your anxiety levels as well as your emotional endurance. Sometimes I worry over small things.

True False. I feel weak and tired most of the time. I am often restless. Sometimes I feel irritated and angry. I am often told that I am short-tempered. I tend to overreact then regret it later. I am short-tempered but recover quickly. Usually, I wake up fresh and rested. Occasionally I am unable to sleep due to obsessive worrying. I am so anxious about some things that I find myself unable to talk about them. I tend to take everything personally. Waiting makes me nervous.

I feel agitated and anxious at least once a week. I think I am more sensitive than other people I know. I am impatient with others. Sometimes a thought comes to my mind, and I keep ruminating about it unable to stop.

Sometimes I think I am on the verge of having a nervous breakdown. Suggested self-help tools: Overcome Fear and Anxiety.

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Thank you for your cooperation in this matter. Moderators could move your thread without notice if they feel it is fitting better into another forum. The Mod Team. Forum rules. Im just having a psychological issue, possibly mixed with a biological one, and I have a feeling its gonna get serious. I'm almost 18, male, and in a relationship. I just feel like I have lost touch with reality, I do get happy, just not euphoric, I do get sad, really depressed sometimes.

So I know it's not depression, cuz my mood feels pretty normal, but I feel a bit emotionless, I dated a girl for a year and a half. I thought I loved her, or at least really cared for and liked her, but one day. I thought this started at a late stage but if i try to go bk in time, my mom once had an asthma attack and almost died, the meds were not there, and I was nervous.

I don't understand why this is happening, none of my reactions or actions are emotionally driven, I get sad becuz I realize I have to, even when I cry. I think to myself. I don't feel any emotions towards my family members, my dad, a few months back, got a little bump in his mouth that he he's a doctor diagnosed it as a tumor that may or may not be cancer, and we were waiting for the test results. I don't know what this is or if this is normal.

Even now, I have a gf, for about 7 months now, I love her with all my heart. I care for her I'm even having a hard time talking!! I just started stuttering every now and then, I look back at what I said and most of it doesnt make sense, I look for words and I cant find them, so I use an extremely simple vocabulary becuz i cannot recall anything formal even tho im a second year student at a pretty tough university.

I feel so detached sometimes. It wasnt always like this, when I was a kid. If i "think" of losing my mom, I cry like crazy, I used to be so emotional that my dad hated my softness, but then it was gradually going away.

I think its a teenage problem, becuz if it starts at age 13, wasnt always there, then it must end soon? It just hurts so much to feel emotionless towards those you really used to love. Can anyone tell me what this is? I can sleep like a baby, and im not worried about anything so no Depression? I don't feel empty, I just feel emotionless and detached, I feel like my senses are barely working and brain is barely perceiving, my gf is a passionate artist, in computer science, she has a crazy ability to focus and has a crazy memory, it brings us to many fights how I cant remember many things.

I also took some vitamin pills like focus formula for my memory, i did feel slight improvement, but not too much.Posted 2 years ago2 users are following. I dont know why but I feel like the world could end and I would feel nothing. I have had family members die and felt nothing my father left me and I feel nothing. All I can feel is pain. Why can't I feel anything.

I've never cried for anyone or anything. So what's wrong with me? Posted 2 years ago. Kind of flat. Sometimes people are depressed and don't even know it.

This is why I suggest you speaking with a counselor you feel comfortable with. Make yourself a priority and get some help with this. Physical pain is the only thing I can feel and I just dont know why I can't feel any emotions. When someone can't feel any emotions that can often be the result of some Trumatic life event but only you would know that. I still say the best bet would be to discuss this with a counselor who can help you figure this out.

I'm 15 but when I was little I had fun and all that but now I just stay in my room and keep to myself barely talk to my brothers or mom. Could it be that I like put a wall around my emotions so no one could hurt me? We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are not moderated or reviewed by doctors and so you should not rely on opinions or advice given by other users in respect of any healthcare matters.

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